Your Opinion? If I work a forty hour week Mon-Fri and my partner works three 12 hour shifts a week (36hrs) is?

it unreasonable for me to expect my partner to get more housework down since she is home 4 days a week? On her days off she just sits around the house and watches TV. Her idea of doing laundry is throwing it in the washing machine, I switch it over and fold it. I often come home to a dirty house, never come home to dinner made. I have talked to her about this but she says she needs time to recover because she works such long shifts. When I get up in the morning I tend to the animals, put wood in our wood boiler, switch laundry she had thrown in the wash into the dryer and fold what was in the dryer, and tidy up a bit from the night. Then I go to work for 8- 8.5 hrs, then when I get home I put wood in the boiler, clean up messes she has made all day and work on unpacking (we just moved). I sometimes feel im enabling her behavior because I do the work, but if I dont do it, it doesnt get down, AND I've talked to her about it. I'm tempted to start making her honey do lists for when she is home, maybe that will help give her some direction. What are your thoughts?