My bf hurt me severely and I dont know what to do!?!?

..The first thing I noticed you said here was they broke up because he drank to much and would not work..This would be the first red flag..I also think there is more to it than this.. The next one is he did not wait or give himself time to heal, which takes at least 1 year, but rather got into another relationship quickly with you, which would tell me, he is highly dependant and needs someone in his life to be whole or complete, or to control..The next is the fact that he takes care of everything, which means this is and will continue to make you more dependant on him, losing any independence you had or will have..Of course he is going to correspond with his ex, this is part of the healing process between couples..They spent 7 years together and it will take at least a year to get over, if he actually wants to..It would be much healthier for you to see him casually, wait a year or more and see how he is going to react to this break-up or if there is a chance he will return to her..If the reason he left is work and he is now working, there is nothing stopping him from returning..Alcohol alone, especially to much of it will never make for a healthy partner..It will eventually come between you to say nothing of what damage gets done in the mean time..You are also jealous, have no trust, and this again is not what love looks like..This is something that is within you that you must deal with first before you can have a healthy relationship..This was just texting, what if he had coffee with her or someone else..How would you feel or react to it? These of course are things you must work out for your self..You are choosing to see the worst case scenario and this would tell me that you are not ready yet for a relationship, especially one with someone who is not yet over their partner because this takes time and lots of it..Anyway, this is what I see from what you have written..Personally, I do think you made the right decision and took good care of yourself by moving out for now, and it really does take a lot longer to get to know someone than just in a few months..You also must remember that he will still have some baggage..One cannot live with someone for 7 years and not have any when they break-up, something you should never have to deal with when getting into any relationship..Both of you have some issues that need to be dealt with and if he really loves you, and you decide he is the one for you, then he will wait and take care of himself in the mean-time as you will take care of your self..